We are all praying with you for your brother. Please take strength in knowing that.
Mary
rafaelcasd wrote:
Very sad to see my brother in a ventilator in a Miami hospital ICU due to COVID. Prognosis is not good. This is the reason I do not go out much. Photography can wait.
Please say a prayer for his health.
I am so very sorry to hear this. Please know we are all thinking of you and your family. Letting go is so very hard and requires so much strength and love. You have both. Take care.
Mary
Oosty wrote:
Hi Rafael, you are in my thoughts and hopefully your brother will recover fully.
I was going to write this yesterday as my brother was also in hospital following a hip replacement after a fall. Sadly I received a call to say that he had passed away.
He was 85 and being fed through naso-gastric tubes as he was unable to swallow and the doctors asked my sister and me for permission to insert a tube directly into his stomach. He had written a living will specifically ruling out extra-ordinary measures to prolong his life and we asked the doctors to respect his wishes. He was kept comfortable for a couple of days and went peacefully.
While it is very sad the quality of life that awaited him, had they been able to solve the problem, would have been anathema to him and we are both comfortable that we did what was best for him.
I have so many happy memories and was really privileged to have had such an amazing relationship and friendship with my half brother.
I hope that you will enjoy many more years as a family.
Oosty wrote:
Hi Rafael, you are in my thoughts and hopefully your brother will recover fully.
I was going to write this yesterday as my brother was also in hospital following a hip replacement after a fall. Sadly I received a call to say that he had passed away.
He was 85 and being fed through naso-gastric tubes as he was unable to swallow and the doctors asked my sister and me for permission to insert a tube directly into his stomach. He had written a living will specifically ruling out extra-ordinary measures to prolong his life and we asked the doctors to respect his wishes. He was kept comfortable for a couple of days and went peacefully.
While it is very sad the quality of life that awaited him, had they been able to solve the problem, would have been anathema to him and we are both comfortable that we did what was best for him.
I have so many happy memories and was really privileged to have had such an amazing relationship and friendship with my half brother.
I hope that you will enjoy many more years as a family.
Peter, very sorry to hear of the loss of your brother. As we age we must face loved ones passing away. I have experienced heroic measures taken with my dad which only extended his suffering and will not repeat that mistake.
Thank you for the kind thoughts regarding my brother. I am grateful for having had him in my life and hope there will be more time to share on earth or elsewhere.
cadman342001 wrote:
Praying for your brother Rafael.
I lost my Uncle to Covid in Scotland last week to Covid. Below is the message I received from my Aunt after he passed. Heartbreaking.
Andy
Ian is at peace now.,.I am still so sad that the doctor put Ian in hospital to work on his kidneys... The man in the next bed had tested positive. Isolated Ian for three days sent him home...next I got s phone call to say Ian had covid...from that time we were left on our own no help and Lesley and Derek could not help.,.when he had to go back in he was in a lot of pain...I managed to see him on Sunday..Derek saw him the rest of the days and they both managed to see Ian before he lost his fight for life...the sad thing for me it was not his heart or kidneys...I had to get tested today and I am hoping all will go well for me,it has been very distressing having to be on my own for such a long time without family around..I hope all is well with you. Take care Ellen. X...Show more →
Andy, my condolences for the loss of your uncle. Here in the US they do not allow us to visit the patient, only to talk to him through ZOOM on and iPad. We do not know if he can hear us but if he has some consciousness he needs to hear he is loved.
Raphael, Peter and Andy. Hearing is the last sense you lose so what you’ve said or say is heard despite all other appearances of unconsciousness.
Know your words and expressions are heard. Take comfort in that.
My buddy, a retired SgtMaj was hospitalized, unconscious and cared for by hospice. I visited the night before he died and said “Sergeant Major, are you gonna lay there and sleep or get up for the morning run?” His face didn’t stir but his feet started running. His wife was amazed and happy to know he heard what was said to him. He passed the next morning.
Peter and Andy. I am very sorry for your loss. This is a very difficult year, in so many ways. I wish comfort for your families in this difficult time. Rafael, I have hope, with each passing day of hearing no worse news.
There has been some really sad news in the last few pages. What a dreadful end to a $h!\y year - one I can't wait to see the back of.
Peter - so very sorry to hear about your brother.
Andy - being half way across the globe must make matters worse for you. Is your family still in the Dundee area? Was it Ninewells hospital? I just found out that the care home that my father passed away in got slammed for poor Covid protocols back in June. The reason for his death was cited as pneumonia.
Oosty wrote:
Hi Rafael, you are in my thoughts and hopefully your brother will recover fully.
I was going to write this yesterday as my brother was also in hospital following a hip replacement after a fall. Sadly I received a call to say that he had passed away.
He was 85 and being fed through naso-gastric tubes as he was unable to swallow and the doctors asked my sister and me for permission to insert a tube directly into his stomach. He had written a living will specifically ruling out extra-ordinary measures to prolong his life and we asked the doctors to respect his wishes. He was kept comfortable for a couple of days and went peacefully.
While it is very sad the quality of life that awaited him, had they been able to solve the problem, would have been anathema to him and we are both comfortable that we did what was best for him.
I have so many happy memories and was really privileged to have had such an amazing relationship and friendship with my half brother.
I hope that you will enjoy many more years as a family.
DeltaSigma wrote:
There has been some really sad news in the last few pages. What a dreadful end to a $h!y year - one I can't wait to see the back of.
Peter - so very sorry to hear about your brother.
Andy - being half way across the globe must make matters worse for you. Is your family still in the Dundee area? Was it Ninewells hospital? I just found out that the care home that my father passed away in got slammed for poor Covid protocols back in June. The reason for his death was cited as pneumonia.
Rafael - stay strong.
Colin
Yes, Ninewells. That side of the family are mostly in Dundee.
Sorry for your loss, Peter, and and good that you and your sister respected his wishes for no extraordinary measures. It's a tough call to make, for sure.
Oosty wrote:
Hi Rafael, you are in my thoughts and hopefully your brother will recover fully.
I was going to write this yesterday as my brother was also in hospital following a hip replacement after a fall. Sadly I received a call to say that he had passed away.
He was 85 and being fed through naso-gastric tubes as he was unable to swallow and the doctors asked my sister and me for permission to insert a tube directly into his stomach. He had written a living will specifically ruling out extra-ordinary measures to prolong his life and we asked the doctors to respect his wishes. He was kept comfortable for a couple of days and went peacefully.
While it is very sad the quality of life that awaited him, had they been able to solve the problem, would have been anathema to him and we are both comfortable that we did what was best for him.
I have so many happy memories and was really privileged to have had such an amazing relationship and friendship with my half brother.
I hope that you will enjoy many more years as a family.
Andy, so sorry for the loss of your uncle. Hopefully your aunt doesn't test positive. She's going to need extra support during this time, too, between the grief and dealing with all the after death rituals, both spiritual and bureaucratic.
cadman342001 wrote:
Praying for your brother Rafael.
I lost my Uncle to Covid in Scotland last week to Covid. Below is the message I received from my Aunt after he passed. Heartbreaking.
Andy
Ian is at peace now.,.I am still so sad that the doctor put Ian in hospital to work on his kidneys... The man in the next bed had tested positive. Isolated Ian for three days sent him home...next I got s phone call to say Ian had covid...from that time we were left on our own no help and Lesley and Derek could not help.,.when he had to go back in he was in a lot of pain...I managed to see him on Sunday..Derek saw him the rest of the days and they both managed to see Ian before he lost his fight for life...the sad thing for me it was not his heart or kidneys...I had to get tested today and I am hoping all will go well for me,it has been very distressing having to be on my own for such a long time without family around..I hope all is well with you. Take care Ellen. X...Show more →
Hearing is the last sense to go. I can tell you that with certainty.
rafaelcasd wrote:
Andy, my condolences for the loss of your uncle. Here in the US they do not allow us to visit the patient, only to talk to him through ZOOM on and iPad. We do not know if he can hear us but if he has some consciousness he needs to hear he is loved.
Peter, Andy, sorry for your loss. This year can not end quickly enough. Lets hope for more promising times starting in 2021.
Trying to relax through these difficult times isn't easy. Taking a walk and avoiding people not wearing masks makes what used to be leisurely strolls a bit less than leisurely.
Thank you to all my friends on this very remarkable thread for your comments. Chris, Siphiwe, Mary, Rafael, Ken, Colin, Dean and Laura - I feel as if I know each of you personally
Over the many years since Curtis set the wheels in motion this group of disparate photographers has grown into a very supportive community which has enriched my life and I am grateful for that.
On this subject does anyone know how Curtis is doing? His presence is missed.
I've read back a few pages. My condolences to each who have undergone the difficulty and pain of loved ones that are sick or have passed. I haven't personally had any family or friends pass although one was hospitalized for a time; however, we have other senior family with Alzheimers that had moved into a long term care facility shortly before COVID. He has been almost completely isolated and it has been devastating for both him and the family.
