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p.3 #1 · Amateur Etiquette


Rob Chisholm wrote:
Hello everyone! I love this Forum -- as a non-wedding photographer, I think this forum is an amazing place, full of great general advice, plus I love hearing about all that goes into wedding photography.

That said, I am, as most are here, a half way decent photographer. I just make my money in another profession. So, of course, people who get married always ask me to bring the camera. And, having read these forums for a long time now, my answer is always a very polite NO WAY!

I really feel that providing photographic services for free (to anyone these
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Great stuff, Rob, well said. If all wedding guests conducted themselves this was this thread would not be necessary. Thanks.



Oct 24, 2008 at 02:52 AM
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p.3 #2 · Amateur Etiquette


I had a reverse experience once, a friends wedding, he had paid for a pro photographer who also had an assistant. After the ceremony itself, between chatting with people I walked around with my camera (a prosumer DSLR) taking in the different scenes and taking an occasional photo. It seemed like practically every time I took a photo of an interesting scene, the pro or his assistant would appear behind me a second or two later. I remember once his assistant even came running from across the room to get behind me and photograph the same scene. At that point I would always step or rush aside to let the pro do his job, I just found it kinda strange. I doubt they were intentionally following me, we probably just had the same 'eye' for scenes and such. I tried to stay away from them and eventually just gave up, the lighting in the reception hall was really bad and I ultimately became more interested in chatting with the other guests.

It's funny b'cos my friend wanted me to shoot the wedding for him rather than pay for a pro, and I told him no, pay and hire the pro. It would have been a lot of pressure on me (to get all the 'money' shots) and I was also wanted as part of the ceremonies so it would've been impossible anyways.



Oct 24, 2008 at 07:26 PM
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p.3 #3 · Amateur Etiquette


I've shot as "official amatuer" at over 20 weddings for friends and family and I ALWAYS make it a point to introduce myself to the PRO early in the day. I ask for their prefered ground rules and if they don't have any - then I suggest a few for myself and make sure the PRO knows about them. Everytime, they appreciate that I approached them and helped then run crowd control.

The biggest rules....

1) don't use your flash when they use theirs. Messes up their lighting.
2) don't aim anywhere near the same angle as them. As someone noted earlier - there's a chance for eyeballs to follow your camera and not theirs.

Remember that they are getting paid to work. It is how they make their living. Please do not interrupt or disrupt them while they are working.

And I always ask for a shot with the PRO and the bride and groom! This is a rare pic and usually by the end of the event, I would have made a GREAT working relationship with the PRO and we can joke around. A few times, we even traded lenses in the middle of the banquet/reception. I've also had the pleasure to work with the same PRO's at different wedding. We know each others names and have a pretty good working relationship with them.... that's why I HIRED THEM for my wedding last July!










Oct 24, 2008 at 08:46 PM
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p.3 #4 · Amateur Etiquette


HOW can you educate the guests at the wedding about this issue?

The Pro cannot be expected to go to each P&S/other shooter and explain the rules. The guests at a wedding never see the contract. The old Wild West comment, "leave your guns, er, cameras at the door" approach will not work.

At recent weddings I've attended a printed agenda/schedule was printed and given to each person as they entered. Has anyone put carefully worded information there about photography etiquette? Either printed in the schedule, or on a separate card? Did it help?

Officiants at a wedding have enough to remember without having to worry about a photographer getting in the way or distracting from the ceremony. If one seems negative, he probably has a very good reason. Take a look at David Ziser's excellent article in the current issue of Professional Photographer for insight on this issue.

Talking this over with the B&G and the officiant before the wedding would certainly help. Adequate photo coverage of a wedding is important; it's worth the time to talk with them.



Oct 26, 2008 at 05:15 PM
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Dude, fun story. But which guy are you?

kaybeejay wrote:
I've shot as "official amatuer" at over 20 weddings for friends and family and I ALWAYS make it a point to introduce myself to the PRO early in the day. I ask for their prefered ground rules and if they don't have any - then I suggest a few for myself and make sure the PRO knows about them. Everytime, they appreciate that I approached them and helped then run crowd control.

The biggest rules....

1) don't use your flash when they use theirs. Messes up their lighting.
2) don't aim anywhere near the same angle as them. As someone noted earlier -
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Oct 26, 2008 at 05:44 PM
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p.3 #6 · Amateur Etiquette


As an amateur photographer, here is my initial (childish) response to this thread:

Why don't you guys go back to school and get real jobs like the rest of the people that can now afford a 5D and 70-200L? You guys get thousands of dollars just for showing up to a wedding (often in your own town) and taking photographs. I know it's alot of hard work, but so is the 9-5 grind of the B&G and all of their guests that travelled long and far to be there!

Now, allow me a moment to calm down, be an adult, and tell you my thoughts. I hope you haven't stopped reading...

I recently attended a wedding in which the B&G were very close friends of mine. They know I love photography and they know I have nice equipment. They asked me (and another friend of ours) to "use your long lenses to get tons of close-up candids of the ceremony, festivities, and especially all of the guests." We did just that, it turned out great, and my friends were super-excited with the results. My pictures were an excellent 'marriage' with the professionals classic shots and made for a wonderful wedding portfolio.

Amateur photographers might make your life a little more difficult, but I would advise you to adapt and persist.

The B&G expect you to capture all of the "classic shots" and to capture them well. If you have to ask someone to move, then by all means do it...but do it nicely. Any reasonable guest should understand that your job is simply to capture that moment and should quickly follow your command.

If you find that a guest is repeatedly 'cramping your style' or hindering your ability to do your job, simply pull them aside for a moment and kindly explain to them your situation. Often you will find that the guest is simply trying to help out the B&G. Then you have a great opportunity to inform them the best way to do so is to take candid images of the B&G as well as all of the guests having fun...all while giving you space!

Lastly, I had a fantastic wedding photographer when I got married. Our results were great and there were plenty of people at the wedding also taking pictures. Having said that, I specifically remember him telling us "you are paying ME to take your picture, so the least you can do is look at ME!" He didn't give a crud who else was taking pictures as long as we were only looking at him.

I will continue to tell my friends that I cannot replace a professional photographer, rather provide an additional service that will hopefully combine to make a kick-butt wedding portfolio.

So don't get angry, be rude, and go do crazy things like amending your contracts. Just use your wonderful personalities, be kind, and adapt!



Oct 26, 2008 at 06:14 PM
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p.3 #7 · Amateur Etiquette


bjrhodes01 wrote:
As an amateur photographer, here is my initial (childish) response to this thread:

Why don't you guys go back to school and get real jobs like the rest of the people that can now afford a 5D and 70-200L? You guys get thousands of dollars just for showing up to a wedding (often in your own town) and taking photographs. I know it's alot of hard work, but so is the 9-5 grind of the B&G and all of their guests that travelled long and far to be there!

Now, allow me a moment to calm down, be an adult, and
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With all due respect, you are the one guy I never want to see at any of my weddings.

For the B&G to ask you to go around and "use your long lenses to get tons of close-up candids of the ceremony, festivities, and especially all of the guests." is totally out of place. Candids of the ceremony? What the hell does that mean? Festivities? you mean first dance, cutting the cake, garter, bouquet toss, introduction, etc? Forget it. You'd be tossed or I'd leave. No way am I going to compete with the likes of you shooting "candids of the ceremony". First off, the "journalistic" style of shooting weddings nowadays is what B&Gs want. That means I bring a second shooter whose job it is is to capture that stuff while I'm shooting the formals. It goes into the portfolio and possibly into the album. If not included in the amenities of the package, then they go into the "prints for sale" category.

Wow, what a shining example of exactly the kind of "guest" I would have a huge problem with at any wedding. You are a professionals worst nightmare.



Oct 26, 2008 at 07:35 PM
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p.3 #8 · Amateur Etiquette


bjrhodes01 wrote:
You guys get thousands of dollars just for showing up to a wedding (often in your own town) and taking photographs.



You mean that's all there is to it? Wow, thanks for clarifying for me the real situation.

I thought I had to buy thousands of dollars worth of equipment, including backups, pay for insurance, advertise my services, meet with the B&G, do engagement shots, process and print those, scout the location of the wedding if it's new to me, "show up and take photographs" and walk an average of 2 miles in the process, barely able to eat dinner as well, THEN process around 1,500 images, color correct, size and compose the album. Meet with the B&G afterward, order prints, deliver prints and albums and then be available for re-prints for up to 90 days.

I guess I've been doing it all wrong... now that I know all I have to do is show up and "take photographs", my life should be a lot easier...

I feel so much better!!!



Oct 26, 2008 at 07:45 PM
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p.3 #9 · Amateur Etiquette


That is exactly the type of opinion and attitude that I am talking about. If you can't adapt to what the B&G want, then what good are you? You are not acting like a professional. Rather, you are acting like a snob.

Just to defend myself (not that I have to), this was a very informal outdoor wedding and reception with people standing around everywhere. The pro did not have a second shooter at the request of the B&G b/c that was my (our) job. The "long lens" was clearly a signal by the B&G to stay well out of the way of the pro.

Besides, I'd like to see you "toss" a wedding guest that is doing exactly what was asked of them. That'll get you all kinds of future gigs, I'm sure.

In response to the second post...I was clearly playing 'devil's advocate' and trying to tell you what "stupid amateurs" may often think when confronted by a pro with a horrible attitude. It's, obviously, not my true opinion and you would have a right to be pissed off by any aspect of that initial paragraph.

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Oct 26, 2008 at 07:48 PM
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p.3 #10 · Amateur Etiquette


bjrhodes01 wrote:
That is exactly the type of opinion and attitude that I am talking about. If you can't adapt to what the B&G want, then what good are you? You are not acting like a professional. Rather, you are acting like a snob.

Just to defend myself (not that I have to), this was a very informal ourdoor wedding with people standing around everywhere. The pro did not have a second shooter at the request of the B&G b/c that was my (our) job.

Besides, I'd like to see you "toss" a wedding guest that is doing exactly what was asked
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Like I said; It'd be either you or me. If competing with you is what the B&G want, then I don't want the job.



Oct 26, 2008 at 07:52 PM
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What about this is a competition?!?

It's simply a second POV that could not be provided by this particular professional photographer. A second POV that is not guaranteed...prone to horrible exposures, poor lighting, and camera shake. I just can't understand what difference it makes to this professional photographer.

Please educate me on how a courteous amateur photographer could hinder a professional.



Oct 26, 2008 at 08:01 PM
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Phil,

I am very impressed by your online portfolio and realize that is likely only a sliver of your grand body of work. The pictures from the NCAA tournament and YNP are especially amazing.

Thus, I am sure that you are a highly sought-after photographer for weddings (and other events). You can likely make your own rules and afford losing a potential client due to their desire to have amateurs shoot 'over your shoulder.' That's fine and congratulations. However, I would also assume most professionals are not as fortunate. That's why I think this thread is called "amateur etiquette"...because it's a fact that amateurs are now shooting at most weddings.

I also think it's important for all photographers, regardless of their talent or tenure, to treat other photographers in the field with respect and kindness. This is most especially true when their client wants that other photographer there. So if you find yourself in a situation such as this at a wedding, I hope you choose to use your hands for shaking and not 'throwing'.

I was interested in this thread because I want to have the best etiquette possible while shooting at weddings with a professional working. It has been very helpful and, after reading, I am very proud of the way I had conducted myself at my friend's wedding.



Oct 26, 2008 at 08:44 PM
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So you really think someone at the back of the room, who has stated they're going to deliberately keep out of your way is still competition? Because there's a chance they might get something with no lighting, sub-optimal position, and only taking pictures when there's nothing more entertaining to do?

It's beginning to sound like either someone really cut your lunch in the past, or you really think the amateurs are actually out to get you.

Best of luck with your new policy. I bet the first time you threaten to walk off unless Uncle Bob goes home is going to be a
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Oct 26, 2008 at 10:21 PM
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Personally, I think there is just no way of stopping others with dSLRs from snapping photos over your shoulder, in front of your camera, etc. etc.

What I think we all need to do is ... take a deep breath and do our job. The funny thing ... there were a few weddings where the priest, the officiant, the DJ, or the MC started the ceremony or reception by requesting that the guests respect the hired professional photographers and not get in the way of their shot. Oddly enough, those simple kind words resulting in much less interference from the friends and family of the B&G.

It is inevitable that others will shoot at weddings. From my experience, most of the younger generation now do not want prints, everything is digital; shared either on Flickr, Facebook, YouTube, and the like. So from that trend our print sales are only going to be to the B&G anyway.




Oct 26, 2008 at 11:13 PM
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bjrhodes01 wrote:
Phil,

I am very impressed by your online portfolio and realize that is likely only a sliver of your grand body of work. The pictures from the NCAA tournament and YNP are especially amazing.

Thus, I am sure that you are a highly sought-after photographer for weddings (and other events). You can likely make your own rules and afford losing a potential client due to their desire to have amateurs shoot 'over your shoulder.' That's fine and congratulations. However, I would also assume most professionals are not as fortunate. That's why I think this thread is called "amateur etiquette"...because it's a
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Thanks for the kind words, I appreciate it.

You (and everyone else) might understand the perspective of a pro shooting a wedding by reading this by a south Florida wedding photographer. He put it better than I can.

http://www.bciphoto.com/blog/the-truth-about-wedding-photographers/



Oct 26, 2008 at 11:39 PM
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I have hired a professional photographer for my wedding, watched several on the job, and consider myself to have a much better than average appreciation of what it take to produce professional-looking images. In addition, I too have thousands of dollars invested in multiple bodies/lenses and spent ~10 additional hours on post processing, etc. for that one wedding. Thus, there wasn't too much in reading that article that came as a suprise.

I do, however, think that it would be an excellent reference for most potential clients when deciding how to spend their wedding budget and interviewing potential photographers. I also feel that educating his/her client on the potential down-sides of having others photograph the wedding is a wonderful idea.

Overall, I appreciated how that particular photographer seemed to have the client's best interests at heart. If the B&G still decide they want to allow others to photograph, I beleive the wedding photographer should respect that decision and still do his/her best to capture the event...while being kind to the guests.

Most importantly, as an amateur photographer that anticipates shooting further weddings, I was able read that article and better learn how to least interfere with a professional at work. After all, that was my intent in reading this post in the first place!



Oct 27, 2008 at 01:07 AM
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If you're worried about losing profits on print sales why not just take better pictures than the amateur so they WANT to buy your picture because it looks better. You ARE the pro so your pictures SHOULD be better than uncle bob with his rebel on full auto. If the only reason "you're the pro" is because you have nice gear well then the real problem isn't other people bringing their gear and taking your shot...


Oct 27, 2008 at 01:56 AM
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p.3 #18 · Amateur Etiquette


phil hawkins wrote:
You (and everyone else) might understand the perspective of a pro shooting a wedding by reading this by a south Florida wedding photographer. He put it better than I can.

http://www.bciphoto.com/blog/the-truth-about-wedding-photographers/

Hey Phil,
Thats my blog that you linked to. Glad it helps. What I'd really like to see is a similar post on every pro's blog. Why?? Because we are the only ones who can affect change here. By raising awareness in the minds of the brides; (after all its their images that will be affected) only then can we hope to see any positive change. I shoot at least one wedding almost every weekend. What I see is a huge growing trend of p&s's and camera phones, let alone debbie digitals out there running amuck.

Brad



Oct 27, 2008 at 08:29 AM
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ahreno wrote:
If you're worried about losing profits on print sales why not just take better pictures than the amateur so they WANT to buy your picture because it looks better. You ARE the pro so your pictures SHOULD be better than uncle bob with his rebel on full auto. If the only reason "you're the pro" is because you have nice gear well then the real problem isn't other people bringing their gear and taking your shot...


That sounds really great. However, in fact most uncle bobs and debbie digitals snapshots are "good enough". Sure ours are better. Far better. They should be. But thats not the point. I had one Saturday....running around with a rebel and a cause...kit lens...pop up flash...flitting around taking hundreds of shots. Now what do you suppose she's gonna do with all of those? Give em away of course. Are mine better with a combination lighting set up during the reception Sure they are, but mine arent free. Its amazing how the demand for a quality shot drops when a free p.o.s image is a free alternative.



Oct 27, 2008 at 08:33 AM
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Here's a couple from Saturday. Thing is....even with this lighting, you know Debbie Digital has a snapshot of these moments with her little pop up flash....will it have the compression and directional lighting used here No, but will they be free?? Sure. Not to mention the tell tale orange glow thats often shed by their af assist beams. Week after week during my formals, you see the subjects looking away from my camera....and guess where into some guest with an iphone or p&s or rebel behind me taking the same shots


http://www.bciphoto.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2008/10/holly-0472-680x453.jpg



http://www.bciphoto.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2008/10/holly-0358-466x700.jpg



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