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| p.2 #8 · What a dumb ass. Talking about myself. |
I'll dissent: IMHO the best possible marriage is one where there is transparency and trust. Lying and hiding stuff, even by omission and even if it's just "gear", is IMHO powerfully self-destructive to the family and to one's own credibility. After all, if I'm willing to hide thousands of dollars in purchases from her, why would she trust that I'm not also hiding an extramarital affair?
My wife and I set overall annual budgets for everything together, including a discretionary account for each of us to do with as we please. That way, we can be sure that as a couple we are meeting our goals for savings, investment, debt reduction, and so on... and neither one of us so much as blinks when the other pulls out something new and shiny. On the contrary, she's delighted when I show up with a new camera or lens. And I get Christmas presents like my Nikon 1 V1 kit a couple of weeks ago.
Trust and honesty are too critical to sacrifice, even a little tiny bit, for any reason.
Edited on Jan 03, 2013 at 07:59 PM · View previous versions