Thanks to everyone for the responses!
I really believe that most of the folks in here are decent, helpful, awesome individuals.... and most of the recent issues have been more a case of momentary lapses of situational awareness than people intentionally making inappropriate comments.
Again, no one is suggesting that you don't critique (or critique hard!), just be clear that you're addressing the photographic techniques in the image.
I've been on this board for more than a bit, and despite a few failings, I still believe its the best place on the 'net for wedding photographers.