As always, you did an amazing job capturing the couple. You composition and toning are spot on.
Maybe it's because I'm taking a course in disabilities now, but for whatever reason, your post stuck with me. I understand you saying that you would have liked a heads up on what to expect from the bride, however, it shouldn't be like that. Kudos to the bride for being comfortable enough with herself to not even mention anything to you. We, as photographers and as people, shouldn't be uncomfortable with the way anyone looks. You get there, you start shooting. There should be not elephant in the room just a joyful bride and an eager photographer.
I'm not saying you did anything wrong, I'm merely getting on my soap box to say that we shouldn't expect anyone to reveal exceptionalities. You wouldn't expect a bride to say, "oh, by the way, I'm blonde, 5'10" and a knock-out." Why should the girl whose not be expected to do the same thing?
I am not a photographer, but have a camera and am learning.
I _am_ a people person though, and wish to record my gratitude to you for honouring these two young people as they really are.
I read so much here, and look, and look again, at the photos and soak it all up ... nothing has been more confirming of what I value (and hope to emulate) AND more refreshing, than this thread.
Thank you.
As always, you did an amazing job capturing the couple. You composition and toning are spot on.
Maybe it's because I'm taking a course in disabilities now, but for whatever reason, your post stuck with me. I understand you saying that you would have liked a heads up on what to expect from the bride, however, it shouldn't be like that. Kudos to the bride for being comfortable enough with herself to not even mention anything to you. We, as photographers and as people, shouldn't be uncomfortable with the way anyone looks. You get there, you start shooting. There should be not elephant in the room just a joyful bride and an eager photographer.
I'm not saying you did anything wrong, I'm merely getting on my soap box to say that we shouldn't expect anyone to reveal exceptionalities. You wouldn't expect a bride to say, "oh, by the way, I'm blonde, 5'10" and a knock-out." Why should the girl whose not be expected to do the same thing?
You know, I totally understand what you're saying... and maybe it's because of having a disabled sister that I see things from a different view. I can't imagine Maureen NOT having told someone that she was wheelchair bound... or that she lost her leg to cancer... it's part of who she WAS, yes... but it's not the norm... and it's understandable that someone coming in to do something as intimate as photography be more in the know to the whole picture. I think everyone might come at these things from a myriad of different angles... and more than a few of them can be spot on, depending on who you are and what you're trying to do.
WOW!!! wonderfull shot! Nice photo with a good idea and creativity. You know to handle the situation....congrat!!! The output are great. For sure your client will satisfy with your picture...
You (& Jeff) are truly an inspiration, Mel. I really enjoyed the shots/story. Have the bride/groom seen any of these photos yet? If so, what was their reaction? I imagine they will be thrilled.
seechelle wrote:
You (& Jeff) are truly an inspiration, Mel. I really enjoyed the shots/story. Have the bride/groom seen any of these photos yet? If so, what was their reaction? I imagine they will be thrilled.
~Chelle
Thanks Chelle! The couple LOVED them. The images I posted on my blog were her favorites, too. I got the BEST comment there from her older sister and it made me all teary!
unblinkable wrote:
Thanks Chelle! The couple LOVED them. The images I posted on my blog were her favorites, too. I got the BEST comment there from her older sister and it made me all teary!
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The couple and there family are used to her as she is. So don't hide it.
Personally I would add some more close ups or crops in the album to complete the set.
You did a great job making het wedding day a fairytale.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The couple and there family are used to her as she is. So don't hide it.
Personally I would add some more close ups or crops in the album to complete the set.
You did a great job making het wedding day a fairytale.
I took plenty of close-ups.
And she'll have final say as to what goes in the album.
I don't think the call to hide or not hide something can be made by anyone other than the subject. I'm excited to see which images she chooses for her book... that's probably when I'll know for sure what her hopes were for the images.
Melanie you inspire me. Your ability to take a situation that most photographers would put less than 50% effort in and produce images like this well it's refreshing as well as inspiring.
unblinkable wrote:
You know, I totally understand what you're saying... and maybe it's because of having a disabled sister that I see things from a different view. I can't imagine Maureen NOT having told someone that she was wheelchair bound... or that she lost her leg to cancer... it's part of who she WAS, yes... but it's not the norm... and it's understandable that someone coming in to do something as intimate as photography be more in the know to the whole picture. I think everyone might come at these things from a myriad of different angles... and more than a few of them can be spot on, depending on who you are and what you're trying to do. ...Show more →
As an active individual who has spent the last 32 years permanently in a wheelchair, perhaps I can comment . . . The more active a disabled person is, the more people they will meet (in work, in play, etc, etc). If one follows the principle of introducing yourself as being disabled you could end up doing it multiple times each and every day (in interviews, business meetings, restaurant bookings, theatre bookings, etc). It gets to be a bit crazy after a while. Think about it, imagine feeling the need to introduce yourself “hi I’m Hilton, I’m disabled”. It has an AA ring about it, except that you’re not in rehab, you’re just you.
Yes, I am disabled, no escaping that! . . . but I am not ashamed of my disability, and more importantly I am also not defined by it. I don’t want people to build up pre-conceived ideas about me, based on a possible telephone comment. Your bride probably feels that way.
Exceptionally tall people don’t introduce themselves as being tall. Obese people don’t introduce themselves as being overweight. Old people don’t introduce themselves as being elderly. Negroid people don’t introduce themselves as being black. (all of these could impact on a wedding photogs plans)
Don’t rule out the possibility that you were being tested, to judge your reaction, and how you were going to work out. I would say you passed with flying colours, despite your being uncomfortable with it.
