Re: So a potential Brides Father called me and .......Advice ...
Ian, yeah I hear you. I have been in situations when I thought my spider sense was tingling and they turned out to be top clients. However on the balance I would like to think that I am right more than I am wrong so in general I play the odds and back my instincts. I know that the cost of me being wrong, in terms of anxiety and fall out would be too big.
Not saying your wrong at all and within the context of the information we have, I think the guys request was reasonable but I don\'t think he helped his daughter by digging his heals in and screwing a relationship. This reminds me of the situation a while ago when a member here was dealing with dad (a litigator) who was just kicking holes in the contract all the time. The \'tog walked and the bride lost. Its a shame that because dad has no perspective that she doesn\'t get who she wants.
My feeling about this is \'what has it got to do with him\' but then I have never dealt with this situation ever, or even close to it. If a parent ever got involved in the arrangement then that in itself would be a red flag for me but that partly because I demand a close rapport with the couple.
Not sure I have offered anything constructive here.
Feb 14, 2013 at 08:08 PM
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