I understand your frustration completely, been there. In the end I made peace with my flash when I went into manual mode. Gave up on Av for flash. Go manual mode, set exposure as you wish, then set a shutter speed up to the max synch speed dependent upon how much of the natural light you want to impact the image. Then shoot with the flash and adjust + or - flash exposure compensation from there.
Years of frustration led me to that point and now I love flash.
Ted
Dec 07, 2011 at 02:42 PM
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