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Chris Beaumont
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p.1 #1 · Some sad news....


Good evening everyone on FM.

I've seen this kind of story crop up a number of times before and always found it strangely life-affirming the way we get to see and capture not just the beautiful, but also the tragic moments in people's lives doing what we do, so now that it's happened to me I thought I'd share my story.....

I covered a wedding on August 22nd this year and for weeks ahead of the date, during the formal shot planning stage, the bride had mentioned doing all the photos involving her mother first because she wasn't in the best of health, obviously we agreed to this, and on the day both myself and Sue (my 2nd shooter) were saddened to find the lady in question was obviously very ill, confined to a wheelchair, seemingly unable to speak much and not showing a lot of cognition of what was occuring around her.

Jenny(the bride)'s strength through the day was very inspiring, balancing the joy of her wedding day with continuing to worry about, and care for, her ailing mother.

I discovered a couple of hours ago that her mother unfortunately passed away a few days ago, and I was planning to send a letter of condolence to them along with a 10x8 of the photo below, which I hope will help them in some small way to remember her fondly as she was on their happy day - maybe this is slightly self-indulgant, but as those too few photographers from here that I have met will know, my own mother is currently in hospital recovering from a brain haemorrage which occured 2 weeks ago, and I can't help feeling that these 2 events, and the photo shown below have made me appreciate this amazing job that I'm lucky enought to get PAID to do, about how lucky we all are as a community to have a talent allowing us to capture those seemingly fleeting moments that could so easily become incredibly poignant in times to come.



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Have a good day everyone,

Chris



Nov 06, 2009 at 12:49 AM
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p.1 #2 · Some sad news....


What a sad story. That picture captured an incredible moment and I am sure it will be treasured by the bride and her husband. I hope that your mom has a full recovery!

Nov 06, 2009 at 12:52 AM
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p.1 #3 · Some sad news....


great shot, very moving, in context especially

Nov 06, 2009 at 01:05 AM
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p.1 #4 · Some sad news....


good stuff....

story of real life .... and this is what matters.
Glad you were there to get the moment captured.

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Nov 06, 2009 at 01:15 AM
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p.1 #5 · Some sad news....


Sad to hear that. What we do is important. We are recording a second in time. Bride, groom, or anyone else.

Great capture Chris.

Nov 06, 2009 at 01:24 AM
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p.1 #6 · Some sad news....


that is very unfortunate to hear.

great capture and i know that the bride will love this capture more than you'll ever know.

Nov 06, 2009 at 01:59 AM
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p.1 #7 · Some sad news....


Send it. You'll be giving a gift that is beyond words.

Nov 06, 2009 at 02:13 AM
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p.1 #8 · Some sad news....


chris - i hope your mother makes a big recovery..

i lost my mom the end of march - her first brain hemmorage in february left her with asphagia - unable to communicate - and the second hemmorage was when we lost her. i still pick up the phone to call her ..before i remember. we both loved full moons, and everytime month there has been one visible (without clouds) i make a point to wander outside in the middle of the night...to say hello.

treasure your mom...and your photos of her.

janetg

Nov 06, 2009 at 02:38 AM
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p.1 #9 · Some sad news....


Great shot, and a great story behind it. I think the bride will be happy to see the letter and the picture. I wish your Mother a quick recovery.

Nov 06, 2009 at 04:35 AM
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p.1 #10 · Some sad news....


I have an aunt that was days away from dying of cancer. She personally asked for me to take a photo of her with my 2 cousins and uncle. Hospital light/window light was crap, but the family treasures this last photo I took.

You're doing the Human thing by sending a card and photo. Not everything is about business.
Good show.
Paul

Nov 06, 2009 at 05:18 AM
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p.1 #11 · Some sad news....


You did EXACTLY what you were hired to do. Great job. That picture is going to be something that she will cherish for the rest of their lives. Great job and I hope your mom gets well soon.

Nov 06, 2009 at 05:27 AM
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p.1 #12 · Some sad news....


That's a truly touching photo and I am sure they will treasure it forever.

Ute

Nov 06, 2009 at 07:36 AM
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p.1 #13 · Some sad news....


Great capture Chris.

If you're Mum's still in addys you really should come by next week. Holly's away and it would be great to catch up/have a beer.

Take care,

Alex

Nov 06, 2009 at 10:45 AM
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p.1 #14 · Some sad news....


I would make sure they get that print ASAP as they may even want to put it on display during the services as I am sure this image is VERY important to them

Nov 06, 2009 at 11:33 AM
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p.1 #15 · Some sad news....


*tip of the hat*

Nov 06, 2009 at 02:09 PM
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p.1 #16 · Some sad news....


bryanlindsey wrote:
*tip of the hat*


+1

And well wishes for your mother to a speedy recovery.

Nov 06, 2009 at 02:40 PM
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p.1 #17 · Some sad news....


Definitely send a photo or two. No charge of course.

Nov 06, 2009 at 03:26 PM
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p.1 #18 · Some sad news....


njjuliano wrote:
bryanlindsey wrote:
*tip of the hat*


+1

And well wishes for your mother to a speedy recovery.


+1 more

Nov 06, 2009 at 03:29 PM
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p.1 #19 · Some sad news....


Very sad story.. I can imagine though that her mother was incredibly happy for her that day and I am very happy for the bride that she has had this very amazing day in her life to share with her mother.

RIP

And I also will give my thoughts for your mother's strength and a good recovery.

Nov 06, 2009 at 04:17 PM
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p.1 #20 · Some sad news....


This is what makes photography more then ink on paper. Good job on the photo and keep preserving moments.

At my wedding a couple months ago we put a small table aside that held photos of the grandparents that have passed on. Each photo was taken from their weddings over 70 years ago and although the photographers back then where much different then today that moment will forever be there for us. I am proud that I could remember them in that way.

Nov 06, 2009 at 07:46 PM
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p.1 #21 · Some sad news....


Sorry to hear your news mate.

My best wishes for your Mum.

Great photo, nice mono conversion.

Nov 06, 2009 at 08:00 PM
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p.1 #22 · Some sad news....


Atleast she got to see her daughter's wedding. I'm sure she'll appreciate your act.

Nov 06, 2009 at 08:05 PM
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p.1 #23 · Some sad news....


I hope your mother makes a full recovery.

It's interesting how important photos are. I flew down to spend some time with my Dad who is terminal. The thing is, he would always turn away when I pulled out the camera. Typical uncooperative man. This time, however, he let me take photos of him. I think he knows how much we will need them. Broke my heart.

Nov 08, 2009 at 08:26 AM
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p.1 #24 · Some sad news....


Firstly - thank you everyone for the kind words and support of both myself and the family in question.

JanetG - I'm so sorry to hear about your mum, mine had a sub-arachnoid haemorrage which has resulted in swelling very close to the speech centre, so while she isn't unable to communicate, she does have to learn to talk all over again. I'm glad you've found a fantastic way to remember her.

Alex - she's been recommended for transferral to the Peterborough stroke rehab ward ASAP, so we're hoping she won't be at Addenbrooks for more than a few more days now, send me a text and let me know which evenings you're free and I'll try and get over after visiting hours.

Suzi - I can't even imagine how that feels, the knowledge that nothing anyone can do will help. I guess this is another instant where the skills we're lucky enough to have will hopefully help us in some way to remember them. I wish you all the best through what must be a heartbreaking time.

Chris

Nov 08, 2009 at 10:01 AM
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p.1 #25 · Some sad news....


Wow. Powerful story, thanks for sharing.

I never got to meet my father-in-law. I have shot several weddings where one parent is no longer there for one reason or another. I am pleased for the couple that they got to share the day with the brides mother. I would trade a lot to go back to even have met my father in law.

Best wishes to your mom.

Nov 09, 2009 at 03:07 AM

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