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p.2 #1 · is this crazy?

i had things like that happen before..so now I make a temporary password of simple fast keys strokes... like "eiveslje", (they arent ever gonna guess that!)
then when its time for them to actually view, I change the password to something normal & easy to remember.

Apr 16, 2009 at 05:02 PM

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p.2 #2 · is this crazy?

I also use a "nonsense" password.

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Apr 16, 2009 at 06:45 PM

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p.2 #3 · is this crazy?

I just don't make the gallery public (as in someone else besides me seeing it) till the couple are ready to see it.

Apr 16, 2009 at 07:15 PM

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p.2 #4 · is this crazy?

You did not do anything wrong, and do not need to change anything. Although if there is a simple way to make sure the couple are the first to see the photos, do it.

There is often drama and control issues surrounding weddings. Boy from one family marries girl from another family. Girl and her Mom plan wedding. Groom's Mom or other family members feel excluded, or think they need to push for their "rights". Bride feels threatened by anything Grooms Mom does.
I'd bet it's something along those lines.
As Red says, family wants to see pictures, should be a good thing. While I do not condone what the MOG and SOG did, I don't think running to you in tears is a balanced response either.
FWIW, my in laws had shared the "official" photos from my wedding with about 100 of their friends, ect, by the time I got back from our honeymoon. I don't remember being upset, or making a deal about it, but 30 years later I DO remember that it happened, so it must have annoyed me on some level.

Apr 16, 2009 at 09:49 PM

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p.2 #5 · is this crazy?

I don't use any passwords.

Apr 17, 2009 at 01:00 AM

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p.2 #6 · is this crazy?

technocraft wrote:
I don't use any passwords.

I don't either, I give the option but no one has ever asked for it. Whats the big deal with viewing the pictures unless they are a celeb?

Apr 17, 2009 at 01:11 AM

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p.2 #7 · is this crazy?

Our gallery is password protected.
Passwords are usually first initials and random numbers. For instance, if the couples names are Judy and Bill, the password might be JB4457. We give everyone at the wedding a "gallery invitation card" which is a business card sized thing which says something like "Judy and Bill invite you to view their photos online at www.... password JB4457".

When we are done editing etc, we post them online in a gallery with another password and email the bride and groom the password with a reminder that this is for their eyes only and that when we get the OK from them, we will change the password to the one which everyone received on the card. Meanwhile, when the guests enter that password, they get sent to a placeholder page with one teaser and a note saying that the gallery will be opened to everyone once the bride and groom have returned from their honeymoon and given the OK".

ETA: wow, sorry for the run on sentences!

Apr 17, 2009 at 02:08 AM

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p.2 #8 · is this crazy?

Letmein is a good one!

Apr 17, 2009 at 03:21 AM

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p.2 #9 · is this crazy?

57suzi wrote:

There is often drama and control issues surrounding weddings. Boy from one family marries girl from another family. Girl and her Mom plan wedding. Groom's Mom or other family members feel excluded, or think they need to push for their "rights". Bride feels threatened by anything Grooms Mom does.
I'd bet it's something along those lines.

Yes this is pretty much the deal in this situation from what I can tell. The bride told me they don't get along very well long ago. Apparently the MOG thought that I should have taken a picture of her alone with the bride but never said anything to me or asked for that particular shot. I had my shot list (my normal shots and the shots the bride asked for) and that particular shot was not on there. I did get a picture of her and her son also a picture of the MOG and the bride and groom. But I did not get a shot of just Tracy and the new mother in law. I didn't even know about this until two days ago. The sister was also mad that I didn't get a shot of her and her brother and her daughter

When we were finished shooting the formals I looked at everyone and asked if there were any special request shots, nobody said a word so we were done.

So when the MOG picked them up from the airport she told them they hacked the site and then told Tracy that the pictures "were nothing to be excited about"! Tracy freaked out, she doesn't have high speed internet so as soon as she got home she called her mother to look at the pictures and make sure they weren't bad like the MOG suggested. Her mother set her mind at ease and told her they were lovely. Tracy was able to see them then next day and she loves them. The only ones that she doesn't like are the bridal party formals. We had everyone spread out amongst some trees and the MOG walked over and stood right in the middle of the shot! She was not supposed to be there! So Tracy hates those!

Anyway, the ordeal is over, the people who paid for the pictures loves them, the others probably do but are too busy being rude to admit it. The only part that sucks for me is the flower girl pick in my other post that is getting the most praise is the sister's daughter so I don't know if using it in my portfolio will happen!

Apr 17, 2009 at 11:55 AM

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p.2 #10 · is this crazy?

I did have a wedding last summer where the bride asked me when making the storybook album if I could edit out her father from all the photos....

Apr 17, 2009 at 12:00 PM

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p.2 #11 · is this crazy?

Sarah Salyer wrote:
When we were finished shooting the formals I looked at everyone and asked if there were any special request shots, nobody said a word so we were done.

And then it begins... don't you just hate that? When the couple are happy with the shots, that's all that should matter, but when you get hassle from the parents, for me anyway, it really hits you hard!

Apr 17, 2009 at 12:10 PM

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p.2 #12 · is this crazy?

I know! I wish my good ol' psychic abilities were on point that day!

Apr 17, 2009 at 12:19 PM

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p.2 #13 · is this crazy?

I have NEVER had a request for just the bride and the MOG

I'm glad your couple are happy, that's all that counts.

Apr 17, 2009 at 05:43 PM

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