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I hear a lot of photographers that have things "in their contract" that seem so far fetched it's a joke, some of them include:
1. Getting fed at the wedding. Are you really going to walk out and throw a tantrum because you got fed last, or didnt get fed at all? And just because its in the contract makes you justified? I don't see why this is in the contract.
2. No other photographers allowed. Last time I checked we live in a free country, and if you can't handle other "photographers" during the wedding day, then maybe you shouldn't be...Show more →
We have both of these things in our contract, but they are there in such a way that I think they are quite reasonable and actually help both of us.
1) We state that we will either need to eat at the reception or that we would need 30-45 minutes break to acquire food and eat. Everyone always just chuckles as says that "of course we are going to feed you!."
2) We state that when other photographers are present, it can pose problems with the final outcome of their photos, and if they allow their guests free reign with cameras, they need to be aware that shots can be messed up. I use this point to talk about what can happen with Uncle Bob's and such. I clearly tell them that I am not put off by normal people taking normal photos in a normal way, but that there are worst case scenarios that happen all the time.
I think so much of it comes down to tone and attitude on our end, as many have suggested. I do tend to agree with those who say that we are the hired professionals and we need to just get over ourselves. I have only ever had two vendor meals before out of 80+ weddings, and even though at the time, I admit, I did feel a bit bothered, looking back I realize that it was such a small thing to be bothered about...especially considered that these were both couples that we never really established a good friendship (like we do with so many of our couples).
I just saw a post someone made on another forum complaining to the ends of the earth about her vendor meal at a swanky reception where it was nearly $300 a plate. Personally, I would not be giving my photographers a $600 tip just so they could eat what I am eating...even if I did really like them. I understand everyone's frustrations about the food, and even though we think that what we do is the most important thing ever, we are just one cog in the wheel of their wedding. if you know the food situation is going to be an issue, prepare yourself for it by making other arrangements. If we lived in a place where that was more common, we sure as hell would figure out a way we can still eat!
That being said, though...I do fully agree that in the times when you are being fed that the catering companies should understand that you need to be fed early. That just seems stupid and childish for them to act that way.