Zebrabot wrote:
Ditch the nagging wife. That's the only problem.
+1
She goes shopping, right? So you should be able to buy what you want when you want it. Nothing complicated about that.
Or, invest in some gaffer tape, and cover up all the logos on your cameras. You always have two cameras? That's fine. Just keep the third one out of sight. They all look the same to them.
She goes shopping, right? So you should be able to buy what you want when you want it. Nothing complicated about that.
Or, invest in some gaffer tape, and cover up all the logos on your cameras. You always have two cameras? That's fine. Just keep the third one out of sight. They all look the same to them.
It sounds like a good idea. Keeping the third camera out of sight. I may look into that.
edl415 wrote:
Or, invest in some gaffer tape, and cover up all the logos on your cameras. You always have two cameras? That's fine. Just keep the third one out of sight. They all look the same to them.
Ain't that the truth.
Whenever I buy new gear, my fiance never notices until I tell her. I should learn to hide my excitement better.
phlegmon wrote:
Whenever I buy new gear, my fiance never notices until I tell her. I should learn to hide my excitement better.
Quick tip - keep your finances seperated. Then you don't have to do the monthly credit card review, also known as "you spent how much on what?" As they say, ignorance is bliss.
Quick tip - keep your finances seperated. Then you don't have to do the monthly credit card review, also known as "you spent how much on what?" As they say, ignorance is bliss.
That's sound advice. I have a separate account for gear. My wife could never keep up with it if she tried and she never pays any attention whether I'm pointing a 35mm or a 300mm.
Most guys here would tell you that a little "covert operation" is sometimes good for keeping peace.
Great photos btw.
The D600 is new technology. Hang on to it. It's a great camera.
I'll dissent: IMHO the best possible marriage is one where there is transparency and trust. Lying and hiding stuff, even by omission and even if it's just "gear", is IMHO powerfully self-destructive to the family and to one's own credibility. After all, if I'm willing to hide thousands of dollars in purchases from her, why would she trust that I'm not also hiding an extramarital affair?
My wife and I set overall annual budgets for everything together, including a discretionary account for each of us to do with as we please. That way, we can be sure that as a couple we are meeting our goals for savings, investment, debt reduction, and so on... and neither one of us so much as blinks when the other pulls out something new and shiny. On the contrary, she's delighted when I show up with a new camera or lens. And I get Christmas presents like my Nikon 1 V1 kit a couple of weeks ago.
Trust and honesty are too critical to sacrifice, even a little tiny bit, for any reason.
She goes shopping, right? So you should be able to buy what you want when you want it. Nothing complicated about that.
Or, invest in some gaffer tape, and cover up all the logos on your cameras. You always have two cameras? That's fine. Just keep the third one out of sight. They all look the same to them.
"...IMHO the best possible marriage is one where there is transparency and trust. Lying and hiding stuff, even by omission and even if it's just "gear", is IMHO powerfully self-destructive to the family and to one's own credibility."
i am one of the lucky few who has a wife that completely supports my hobbies 100%. as long as i keep awesome pictures coming her way, i get to keep my free reign over photo purchases. oddly enough, the last lens i bought was over 1.5 years ago. i really should take more advantage of my privileges!!
BenV wrote:
I guess since I'm not married, I don't understand how someone else can control my finances. I work for my money, I spend my money how I see fit.
Wait until you get married. Suddenly you will realize is not just your money any longer. I don't mind my wife checking on me on how I spend money. Sometimes I do go crazy.
traylorc wrote:
Can we get back to talking about photography?
Please...enough of the "Dr. Phil" marriage counseling session.
This thread is both about the OP's gear choices and the effect of those on his marriage. I find it interesting that you object to positive advice, but have nothing to offer those who suggest he "deep-six the wife". How sad.
I wish you the best of luck, and may time and experience bring you wisdom before your current views cause you pain.
Hmmm... several thoughts. Keeping the D700 would have been a fine thing to do considering you shoot weddings. Also my thoughts on your wife not being happy about the purchases... Clearly honesty is the best policy. And instead of selling your D700 you should have taken the time to explain that you make money with these tools (assuming you do) so it's not like spending money on a hobby. your spending money on tools that allow you to make more money. It's an investment. Not an expense. There's a difference.
Rodolfo Paiz wrote:
This thread is both about the OP's gear choices and the effect of those on his marriage. I find it interesting that you object to positive advice, but have nothing to offer those who suggest he "deep-six the wife". How sad.
I wish you the best of luck, and may time and experience bring you wisdom before your current views cause you pain.
You want to know why I did not over react to the comments to "deep six the wife". Routinely when you have a thread like this where the topic of someone's marriage is mentioned, there will be sarcastic comments regarding the wife. I give my forum members the benefit of the doubt they are not seriously advocating doing something malicious to the OPs wife.
Second, I do not know the OP....I do not know his wife...I do not have any information about his marriage. Therefore, I am not in an informed position to judge or make any assessment of the OPs marriage. No offense to anyone....but I visit the forum for the photography information. If I want advice on marriage, finances, etc....I will talk to my friends or family.
I find it interesting that you evidently assumed my Dr. Phil comment was only directed at anyone attempting to give positive advice. In actuality, I was making a sarcastic comment regarding all commentary on how the OP should handle his finances or his marriage.
Ain't that the truth.
