Subject sounds odd? Agreed, but I have no idea on how to tell this in a short sentence
Just received a phone call from MOB. Her daughter telled her, that I was pleasently surprised by the detailed email they sent me: after a short "are you available?" inquiry from them I answered "yes, I am" and asked for some info on their wedding day, perhaps a sentence on them too, to get a feeling for whom you're talking to.
Instead of a short and rough schedule I usually receive, she sent a very detailed schedule plus a few sentences about who they are. Told them "wow, the most detailed mail I ever got" and that's what she told her mother.
Now, MOB asks me to forward the mail to her because she might get some info on what to put into FOB's speech. First I thought "why not?" and told her that, but now I'm not so sure. Of course, I might simply answer "no relevant information for you" (that is what i'll probably do). But, what would you do?
That's kind of creepy. Why doesn't she ask her daughter to forward the message? Sounds like something else going on, and yeah, I'd point out the privacy policy.
Maybe I'm missing something, but it seems to me that this is a speech that the father of the bride is the only person who can write it.
The privacy issue is important, as others have pointed out. Family members need to talk with family members; the photographer should not get involved in and share personal information.
Several of us might put down some thoughts on what to include, or share what other fathers have said, but this is so personal that only this father can do it for this daughter. He might ask his daughter what would mean the most to her.
This is a formal transition for the father, who is often overlooked in the wedding festivities, except for paying for them. He has provided and been responsible for his daughter all of her life, and now he is acknowledging that someone else is now responsible for providing for her. The wedding is a fun event, and it's also a serious, life-changing one for the bride and groom, for both sets of parents and for the two families that are being merged.
What kind of "send-off" does he want to give her? He alone can do that. Don't deprive him of the opportunity.
