It\'s easy to second guess these things after the fact and it\'s always hard to word things perfectly for a client trying to anticipate all the possible ways they will react but looking at the dialogue that occurred, I think you might want to consider starting out a bit differently next time.
I think it is possible that when you started out with:
\"whatever you decide, I will work with and will do my best to get awesome photography for you, however . . .\"
she heard:
\"If you can\'t give me the first look, all bets are off babe. No guarantees. It\'s not going to be my problem if you\'re not happy. Oh, and by the way, I\'m a little freaked that I have to depend totally on low-/artificial-light shots.\"
Something a little less defensive and to the point might have been less fear-inducing, like:
\"Received your timeline and just wanted to double-check some details. As scheduled, there will be no natural-light pics of you and the groom together. Are you OK with that? (probably wouldn\'t even mention that you can totally rock low/artificial light unless she asked. Sounds like you\'re nervously over-compensating if you state it pre-emptively) The 20 minutes you are giving us for formals/posed romantic shots will give us time for about X different shots with a pretty limited number of locales/backgrounds/setups. Are you OK with that?\"
I suspect that there are still some brides that want the \"no peak before the wedding\" tradition. During your consults, it might be useful to ask why they prefer to not do the first look to determine if it is just timing/logistics or whether there is some \"traditional\" desires there, too.
May 04, 2011 at 11:54 AM
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