I think somewhere around age 12 children lose the ability to make unconditional friends. The kind of friends that you learn about through osmosis, without any conscious effort to “get to know each other”. It just happens without you thinking about it, like breathing. The ones that never have to call you for help at 2am because, well, you’re right there in trouble with them. Every time. The ones that never really enter your consciousness because they’re part of who you are.
Maybe guys don’t understand this. Seems to me that men run in a fluctuating herd, for the most part. Whoever wants to do what you’re doing now is who you hang with. Girls are often different though; the concept of “best friend” holds a lot of strength. And a lot of power over them. Therein, of course, lies the double-edged sword. I can’t decide if I hope my daughter grows up with a best friend or not. I have 2. I love them in a way that’s almost fierce.
R’s mom was nice but . . . forgetful. As in – forget to pick up her kids forgetful. B’s parent’s like to drink (I\'m in my 30\'s and still terrified of her father). And my mom (a single parent) was very sick for years - wouldn’t get out of bed for weeks at a time. So I think we found each other at a time in our lives when we each needed something. Although, strangely enough – we never talked feelings. Ever. It was just enough to have someone else there. It was something of a shock to me when they started talking feelings. lol
This is one of my best friend’s little boys. When I look in his eyes, I see his grandpa. I see his uncle in how he moves, I see his mom in his smile. I think he’s beautiful. I\'m bursting to share these, although I have a bunch more on the card I\'ll probably add to to this thread.
He kept digging his toes into the grass; he was finally sitting still I couldn\'t bring myself to harp on him about his toes. Although from a photography standpoint I wish he wouldn\'t.
1/160, f/2.8, 140-200mm, ISO 100
More with some smiles coming soon, if these generate any interest.
Oct 19, 2009 at 09:57 AM
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