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Archive 2008 · How do you balance work, family and photography?

  
 
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p.1 #1 · How do you balance work, family and photography?


Several years ago I dove into the world of photography and never looked back. I absolutely love it, it feels very natural, and the entire process of it is a huge mental release (flow, so to speak). But now we have two very young kids, a toddler and an infant, and my free time for photography is almost non-existent. I work full time outside of photography. I love my family and enjoy spending time with my kids. However, the desire to photograph is pushing outward strongly as ever. I push back trying not to get frustrated that I don't have time for it, but this does not seem to work. I'm also a "modern" dad who believes raising kids is a shared responsibility and not for a stay-at-home mom or dad to do it mostly alone (my dad never changed one diaper!), so I'm not going to simply tell my spouse, sorry honey, I'll be gone all Saturday morning.

Does anyone else here deal with this too? If so, do you have any recommendations? Do you simply stifle the creative urge for a few years? Do you find ways and time to photograph that allow you to balance these things? How do you instill a practice regime? Do you simplify your photography or make tradeoffs such that you make time for it, but perhaps not in the way you would like (for example, shoot only JPG to cut down on the time required to process RAW files, or shoot still lifes when you'd rather be shooting landscapes (I love shooting drift wood at the beach)?

I try and have a camera with me at all times (almost always a Ricoh GRD2, which I have a couple of projects around, and sometimes a DSLR). But trying to manage a camera and keep a close eye on a toddler is challenging at best. I sometimes shoot at lunch during the week, but the light is not optimum.

Some may say, well, make a career out of it. But for now it's fun and I don't want to make it work (just yet). I need practice and experience. I need to feel comfortable giving up a long-built lucrative career in another industry. Probably give up health benefits too (and with kids this is an important issue). I personally don't mind these risks, but it's not just about me anymore.

I'm sure others have fond ways to balance family, work and photography such that they continue to make progress with their photography skills and finds ways to get out and do it. I would love to hear how one balances the practicalities of real life with the creative life.

Thanks for letting me vent I'm just trying to find ways to keep working, take care of the family, and allow my photography to move forward however slowly. I don't want to give it up.

Edited on Aug 30, 2008 at 03:52 PM



Aug 30, 2008 at 03:42 PM
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p.1 #2 · How do you balance work, family and photography?


Hi,
I think it's good that you let it out. I have 3 boys (4 yr old, 2 yr old and 1 month old), my full time work is not photography related and photography is just one of my many hobbies. My kids run around all day long so I use them as targets for fast action shots. They are also great for portrait as well. Sometimes when they are all asleep (rare), I sneak out of the house (to the backyard!) and do some macro shots. It's not perfect though. I did forget to feed them or change their diapers once in a while but in general, it's been working for me so far.
Anyway, I just want to say that you are not alone. Don't give up....



Aug 30, 2008 at 10:30 PM
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p.1 #3 · How do you balance work, family and photography?


I don't. =) Photography is my work and my family consists of my siblings and parents. No kids yet (at least I hope not!)

=)



Aug 30, 2008 at 11:56 PM
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p.1 #4 · How do you balance work, family and photography?


Andrew,

There's no way around it being a struggle to find time for everything. Apart from trying to carve out a bit of photography time here and there as you might carve out time for exercise or another hobby, I'd suggest you practice your photography craft on your kids (when possible--being the responsible caregiver for an infant and toddler doesn't leave much room for looking through a viewfinder!) and be happy with that for now. Trust me, you'll have more time for your hobby as they grow older, and that'll happen a hell of a lot faster than you're thinking it will right now.



Aug 31, 2008 at 12:22 AM
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p.1 #5 · How do you balance work, family and photography?


Andrew- I am in your same boat. I have a 19month and 3month old, and it is very frustrating not being able to go out and shoot. My wife has expressed her concern that every time she turns around, I am there with the camera in one of the boy's faces. I try and tell her that I am "preserving the moment" and she will appreciate it in a few years, but she didn't buy that excuse.

So after a lot of discussion, we agreed that I will take a few hours a week (my day is Thursday) to go out and do whatever I want (golf or photography.) It's worked out pretty good and lets me plan during the week on where I want go and what to shoot. But the camera still comes out a lot when I am home with the boys and she's at work. Shhhhhh!
Ken



Aug 31, 2008 at 03:42 AM
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p.1 #6 · How do you balance work, family and photography?


I sold my kids for a new 5D and never looked back.

Actually I am in a similar situation. I shoot 4pm - 7pm on Sundays, wife not thrilled but if I dont shoot I begin to chew on the furniture, so its a lesser of two evils for her.

Edited on Aug 31, 2008 at 01:40 PM



Aug 31, 2008 at 01:36 PM
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p.1 #7 · How do you balance work, family and photography?


Thanks for chiming in... I guess we all figure out how to fit it in!


Aug 31, 2008 at 07:37 PM
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p.1 #8 · How do you balance work, family and photography?


Life's a tradeoff. I am in a very similar situation and also try to balance playing hockey - which I do about twice a week - because I think it's really important to have a physical outlet.

I got into photography precisely because I wanted to take pictures of my kids (one is 3, one 20-months). Before they were born I made a promise that I would try to take a picture of them, every single day of their life, as long as I could. So far I have held to that promise pretty well, and only missed a few days - and then only because I forgot my duty in all the business of raising a child. There were a few nights where I had to sneak into their room at 11:45 PM to snap a shot of one of them lying in their crib.

If I posted my photos here, I am sure they would get criticized to pieces. My photographs are not art, but I think they are beautiful, and my wife loves them, and I get a lot of pleasure out of flipping through images while I am on the streetcar or waiting at the doctor's office. And one day, they are going to have a treasure trove of images of themselves.

Anyways, I keep telling myself I am going to find more time to actually get better at the craft, but I never do. I am very involved with the kids - I take them to daycare, pick them up, cook and feed them dinner, etc. By the time they are in bed, I am exhausted and have no energy to do anything. So for me, progress in photography is slow to non-existent, and I keep trudging taking what some would deride as snapshots. But we still love our snapshots.

If I were the OP - and we are in very similar circumstances - I would try to work on taking better pictures of my children. They're right in front of us because we're caring for them all the time, so what better to do then put the camera in their face and try to take beautiful pictures of them, and maybe learn something in the process ? It's definitely a challenge in its own right. Take a bunch of pictures of your kids every day, and you've probably taken a bunch more pictures than most. Then make sure you print out the best pictures, so that your wife can enjoy them. One day, she will come to appreciate it. My wife certainly does, and allows me to indulge myself by not complaining when I spend far too much money.

There's a great collection of photos some guy did of his kids out there - they were linked to from here, strobist.com, and elsewhere - and I keep telling myself that I would try to copy some of those shots as a learning exercise. So I bought umbrellas, flashes, Pocket Wizards, etc - and they're still all in a box waiting for the day I have time to figure out how to use it - along with the macro lenses, and macro flashes I bought when I thought I might try to do macro photography in the backyard when my kids are sleeping !!



Sep 03, 2008 at 01:49 PM
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p.1 #9 · How do you balance work, family and photography?


I work as a freelance writer and I take my own photos for articles etc...and I do a bit of photography for pay, as well as well as web design which I do some photography for. So it's tied in with my work.

And my kid is into it too, so it's a father/son thing I can do.



Sep 03, 2008 at 10:10 PM
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p.1 #10 · How do you balance work, family and photography?


I got into photography about two years before the birth of my twin boys who are now nearly three years old. I would've been doing all kinds of nature, wildlife, and various other trips in my spare time if I didn't have them. Instead, I have fired off nearly 20K shots on the boys from birth through today. I'm allowed one day a year to go off to do my thing.

There is no balance when you have two little ones. You deal with it the best you can because it is life. You can, however, adjust to your environment and make the best out of it. I know I'll be shooting a lot of kids sports for many years to come.



Sep 03, 2008 at 10:52 PM





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