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amonline wrote:
My intuitions were proved right within only months in both cases, as both opted for nearly instant divorces.
I have a saying/ code when my wife asks me how the wedding went.
"Tuesday Job" is my way of saying, " I think they will last to about next Tuesday and then it will all be over."
Been right about that a few times more than I would have ever even dreamed. 4-6 weeks afer the event hen I finally get on to a parent and they tell me " They are no longer together".
And some people question why to get payment up front??
Its not the tears I go by, It's the fact the bride has fallen down in the mud walking across the park and the groom is too busy having beers with the mates and are 3 sheets to the wind anyway to even have a clue. It's the way on the day he speaks at her rather that to her and some of the comments they will direct to each other or the sentiments to others when the other is not there.
It's the way she snaps at him with vengeance and anger over little things that you don't see happy couples doing or is not rational even given the stress of the day. It's the way they talk about what they want rather than what We want not consult each other about things they should.
Sometimes the way it is so evident it's not going to work when you have known them 5 Min but you discover later in the day that your opinion is the same as everyone elses that does know them is just scary. Never known that to have the fairy tale conclusion yet, just the predictable ending.
You stand and wonder why in the hell they are even doing this in the first place? They must think it's as easy to get Divorced as it is married and it's not going to dog them the rest of their days.
So far, to my knowledge, I have not done a "had to get married" job.
Certainly done my share of pregnant brides but they had all booked me before the event, or had 14 Month pregnancy's.
I have one booked for October and the baby is about 3 months old now. Again, I was talking to
them 3 years ago about doing their wedding, they were still working out the when and wheres and had put their money down well before the news came. I don't get the impression it was an accident either. Unfortunately, I will be more surprised if the wedding does go ahead than If it is cancelled. She seems a nice girl but the guy needs a smack in the face with a shovel and I think certain members of her rather " Direct" family are not far away from giving it to him based on what I saw recently at a family event I was covering for them.
You get to learn a lot about people in this game and pick up on things. One of the real alarm bells for me is couples that have been together a long time, 10 years say and have a couple of kids and THEN decide to get married. From what I have seen, these ones get married because the wheels are falling off the relation ship and they think getting hitched is going to stick them back on again.
Couldn't be more wrong from what I have seen. It's usually a matter of months and it's all over.
I had a happy exception to that a couple of years ago. Couple had been together 25 years, had an 18 yo, a 14 yo and an 8Yo. They had sold their old house about a year earlier, moves a bit further out into a beautiful new home Debt free on what they got for the old one, Husband had a got a promo at work and she had found a job she loved and all was good and right with the world. He had asked her to marry him after about 3 months of going together and about 50 times since but she always said no, thought it was a waste of money. He wanted to do it for heir 25 years together and before their kids were getting married.
It was my first ever registry office weddings and also one of the nicest, Happiest sincere weddings I have done. After all those years the Bloke who was no pussy still had a tear in his eye giving his speech just so happy that finally after all those years the love of his life could finally be called his Mrs for real.
All I have learned and seen with my instincts tell me that one is the way they all should be and lives up to all the good Cliche's I spose everyone that gets hitched hopes for.
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May 10, 2017 at 11:46 PM |
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