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Well said and I completely agree with you. Time will tell. I do know that some people are terrible at communicating and wait for ever to respond, even with important stuff. In August they found cancer in my wife's thyroid and she had two surgeries within 10 days. She received an overwhelming amount of calls, texts and emails. She still hasn't responded to most of them. She sees something and let's it sit.
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Few things come to mind here.....
I disagree with not contacting the parents. I have done very few weddings where they are not intricately involved if they live locally. Even one interview would have made the involvement clear. If the Bride lived at home, for sure I would be contacting someone there. It may not have been applicable in this case but if it had, one call would have explained the problem and saved the angst.
Ringing a parent and saying if the couple aren't interested you'll delete the pics is not a threat, for me it would be fact. I'm not going to waste storage space for nothing. It would be stupid to make threats and I don't think anyone suggested that here. Likewise it is only common sense to be respectful in all communications.
The info given was " The Cheque is in the mail".
To me, that's a hell of a lot different to " I have organised the bank to send you a cheque". Why you would do that is beyond me anyway. The Banking system in Oz is a Hell of a lot easier to deal with than the US system though and I have experience with both to know. Here we would just get the other persons account no. and do a direct deposit and it would be there that night. And no, it is not risky or anything else. Loads of businesses do it and publish their account details for that reason and it is not a source of problems.
Putting money in is a load different to taking it out.
As for the father being sick.... really, ho hum.
I went though the darkest time of my days recently yet my wife and I still found the time to make a call or send a text to let people know what was going on and keep our affairs organised.
I had specialist appointments and while we were going back and forth to the hospital and my wife was able to call or text them as we drove in the car and say I would not be able to make it and I'd get back to them with another time.
On the info given, calls and emails were made by the shooter to the client. If the couple forgot about things, that would have reminded them. It takes nothing to make a return call or send an email. If it was a problem with the family, I would guarantee emails were flying around every day to other family members so I would find it hard to believe that for 2 weeks they didn't look at their email box and couldn't send a Quick " Sorry fred, my father is sick atm, I'll get back to you asap." Message to the shooter.
After letting her know what had happened, One of my doctors must have texted me a dozen times so far, the last one on Friday saying hope you are OK, let me know when you want to come in. She has been terrific and as a busy doctor has managed to find the time to get back to me with these many messages so someone saying they are so busy they can't contact someone to me is not at all logical.
I have never sent as many text messages, made and taken as many calls and put in about 1000 times more facebotched use that I ever had before when we were running back and forth to hospitals and making other arrangements.
You don't spend every waking moment at hospital nor are flat out occupied every moment you are there so having gone through it myself, I say it's an excuse rather than a reason and people can get upset over that if they want to play the soft of heart and head card which is what a lot of slack people rely on. I sent and received loads of messages from the hospital and if anything, I was easier to get hold of than ever before because I was on the phone and email more than usual to stay in touch with people. We spent 34 hours at the hospital in one stint and we were far from uncountable. An hour after we arrived there was a social worker there running through a list of people we might need to contact that they could contact for us.
Sorry to all whom want to make excuses based on sob story's but I find this excuse a complete crock. It does not in any way reflect with reality of what happens in that situation especially over that period of time. I have been there more than once.
Again, the benefit of up front payment is shown here. Had they done that then the way the situation was looked at would have been quite different.
Every time I go to a new Medico or even one I have been to for years, they take a look at my blood test and tell me I have to cut down on drinking. A good month for me would be 2 drinks. The fact is the great majority of people that have a result like I do are alco's. As such, the doctors are naturally going to think that is my problem as well just going buy the look of me.
The same applies here. Based on the info given of the situation, it IS natural to assume the worst because I have numerous occasions I remember when the worst happened with those circumstances but I cannot remember ANY time I didn't get money up front, I didn't hear anything from the people for weeks and there turned out to be a legit reason. ALL the people I have dealt with found the time to make a call and say sorry, got a family emergency, we will be in contact.
And that's the real Red flag for me.
In my overwhelming experience, genuine people do let you know if there is a problem. The ones that burn you don't.
Like dealing with Models. The ones that have a genuine reason they can't make it to a shoot contact you asap and are profoundly apologetic. The Bimbos wait a week or for you to contact them and then always have some excuse about a dying grandmother or other crap you have heard 100 times before.
Some people may want to give everyone the benefit of the doubt but I don't. When I have, it's caused me to be burnt and I do try to avoid that as much as possible.
It's hard to know what transpired here because clearly a lot of people have a lot less to do with their clients in person than I do. Even if this had been a short notice wedding, I would have had an idea how long the honeymoon was, if the couple, either one, lived at home I would have the parents number, and I would not have been at the wedding unless I was handed an envelope of cash as I walked through the door.
I don't know what the arrangement the OP has here but it would not surprise me in the least if there is problems with this deal yet. I hope I'm wrong but if we are getting a realistic account of the situation, I'd be waiting till the fat lady sung before breathing too easy....Show more →
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