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I guess once they have a date & the venue booked is a good time to start gathering potential vendors, doing so in reverse order can be frustrating for everyone involved.
That may be true, although finding the right photographer first may determine the date and/or re-arranging the budget. zndr, I wouldn't press her for the look she wants. After they have some portfolios to look through, they may start understanding what they like or don't like.