Upload & Sell: Off
Last November my son got married. I paid for the photographer and the couple wanted to get a deal where they got the images on a disc and I could do the album.
Though they asked my advice about the choice of photographer, ultimately they went with one I wasn't so keen on as they liked his personality. Fair game, that is important, but his photography wasn't up to my expectations, though well within theirs.
I decided not to interfere. If I was too critical, they wouldn't enjoy their photos so much.
On the day I was very well behaved and left my camera in the car for most of the time. I did as most people on here have suggested and I enjoyed the day. I was the mum of the groom, not a wedding photographer. I put my faith in the paid photographer and tried to leave well alone....mistake.
We got the photos back and I was so disappointed. I'd assumed wrongly that there were certain photos that the photographer wouldn't need to be asked to take. I haven't any individual photos of my son. None of him with his father, none with his best man or ushers and I could go on. Making a balanced album has been a nightmare.
I think that wedding photographers who are also parents are in a difficult position. You turn up to your "childs" wedding with a camera and everyone thinks "can't they just leave it behind for once?". Yet if we weren't wedding photographers and just had a little point and shoot, no one would think twice about us taking lots of photos. The only difference is the size of the camera. I didn't want to lug my 5d mk 2 around, so I didn't get to take many pictures at all. I did the right thing and left it in the car...but for the period between the wedding and getting the professional photos I didn't have anything to look at. All the other guests with their point and shoots had loads.
I have another son getting married later in the year and we are going to make a comprehensive list for the photographer. We are not going to risk being in the same situation again. So there is more than one way of looking at this. I can truly understand the advice given for the parent to leave the photography to the professional, but I can understand too the other side. It is the couples wedding, they make the choices. We can advise and guide, but ulitimately the choice is theirs in the end, even if it isn't the one we would have made.
Being the mum of the groom who does wedding photography has been one of the hardest situations I have been in.