deepbluejh Offline Upload & Sell: On
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Ian Ivey wrote:
This is an example of what trr talks about a lot. You had (and perhaps still have, if you act quickly) an opportunity to dig in and ask about her fears. What is she afraid of that you could manage very well, even for a {gasp!} guy? Ale might be right -- it might have to do with the getting-ready photos, in which case you've got an opportunity to discuss your approach and put her fears to rest.
Or maybe she just thinks girls have a special view of things, in which case you might walk her through some of your photos and ask her what she liked about them when she saw them. An interesting question would be, "So, when you saw my photos, you thought I was a girl. Sure, my name is ambiguous, but you made an assumption. So what was it, about my style, that attracted you?"
She's afraid of something. You've mis-estimated the odds, I think. She has a 100% chance of walking away if you don't find out what she's afraid of and show her you're man enough to handle it. ...Show more →
We discussed that pretty thoroughly during the meeting. I told her how I normally handle "getting ready" time and that I'll gladly comply with whatever she is comfortable in. We talked about it for a few minutes, but I didn't want to belabor the point.
Seems to me like they had their minds made up before they even drove to see me. Apparently I did a good enough job during the meeting to get them to not only sign, but sign above their stated budget. I suspect the root of the issue here is the father's objection to the price. The gender preference thing is likely to be the lesser of the two concerns.
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