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| p.1 #16 · Clients disappointed that I wasn't a woman. |
I've had brides not want a male photographer shooting the getting ready pictures, I've also met some that feel other women are a better judge of what is/is not a flattering picture.
I get the whole "getting ready" thing. But really, the only situation people seem to have a problem with is being around when people are changing clothes. No problem, I'll gladly step out of the room. In my mind, it's not a big deal, but maybe I don't "get it". Is being around during hair/makeup questionable as well?
As for what is "flattering" or not, the clients said they loved my work, so I will assume it's not that.
You don't ever feel of "this is women's domain" being in the room during that part of the day? I do, very much. Girls are doing what girls do in their dressing gowns and things and sometimes the bride is very nervous, some are tearful so I can understand why many would feel more comfortable with a female photographer during this time.
I recently mentioned to a bride to let me know when she was ready for me to take pictures of her in hair/makeup and she was all "omg thank you thank you I didn't want someone taking pictures of me with no makeup on!" I have also had other thank me for letting them know I will take off any pictures from the web gallery they don't want being seen by others they may give the password out to. It's that level of sensitivity they don't think they will get from a male photographer.
I have also so often seen a male photog show a shot he thinks is great and a women would instantly see backfat/armfat/whatever women worry about; just because they don't see it in your portfolio doesn't mean they wouldn't worry a picture they hate ends up on the front page of your site. It's not all logical.
There are all sorts of 'ladies days' for events and most women would probably prefer a female hair/mua person. For some things many just like to be with their own.
Maybe this isn't normal, but I'm super comfortable during getting-ready with the bride, and the bride is always very comfortable as well. It may have something to do with my female assistant also being present, but they tend to be very trusting and comfortable around me.
As for the no-makeup thing, well there are some things that are just obvious, no bride is going to want close-ups done before makeup or while she's smearing gobs of it on her face. This is the time that you focus on wide shots, other people in the room, get some details, etc.
One of the first things we do tends to be detail shots in the morning, and I think it gives them some time to warmup to the idea of us being there without immediately pointing a camera at them.