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Wide open has it's charm, stopped down has, too. I think, most important is the right mix. Last year I saw a complete wedding series from start (which was the ceremony) to finish (reception). During the first 10 or so images i was amazed by the DOF. All-blurry background, nice sharp subjects. Really stunned me. The second 10 images: oh, okay, nice DOF. The third 10 images: mm hm ... And then: oh man, did the photog *ever* stop down? No, he did not. In the end, it bored me.
So, while I am really keen on getting one of those really fast primes, to _be able_ to achieve this look, watching this series tought me to carefully balance different f-stops.
I guess the question is, why would that photographer need to stop down? Unless you could pick out shots where family was staggered and row 2 and 3 were completely out of focus, why should he stop down? It's his style. And he likes it. It may differentiate him from others in his market, or it may be what his clients love. More importantly, it may be what he loves, and that's key.
There are those of us who stick with what works, and those of us who mix it up. But in the end, it's all about style. We can all groan about how we hate a constant f/1.2, or how we hate a constant f/8, or how we hate selective color, sepia, punchy editing, film emulators, etc. But it really comes down to style. And I see nothing wrong with anyone wants to shoot everything wide open or stopped down, as long as it makes sense. Especially for weddings, when lighting can be tricky, backgrounds can be full of polka-dot looking guests in blue tuxedos and purple dresses, or could be a graffiti'd wall, a busy street, or a beautiful sunset or a candle lit evening.
I guess it's one thing to say that the photographer didn't (which is what you did - so I'm not trying to argue here ), but it's another thing to claim - without talking to the photographer and finding out how they like to shoot or what drives their style/inspires them - that they don't know how to shoot stopped down.