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This is an answer - in a roundabout way. I am not opening a new debate on the merits of the subject of my post - I'm just using it to illustrate the point.
How to determine right and wrong - the easy way.
First you have to recognize there is such a thing as right and wrong. There is really no room for relativity. People who run to "shades of gray" arguments are looking for justification for their actions and not looking for truth. Seek the truth.
My cousin (not a Christian - but searching for answers) came to me one day and told me he and his wife were pregnant. He said they could not afford another child, their marriage was already rocky and he was starting a new business and just didn't have the time. All good reasons for a lot of things and a lot of decisions that are hard but actually doable.
This one is not so easy. They understood that fact that the fetus was fully human, but not being "Christian" they had no moral reason to not abort it - for the sheer convenience of it.
After some time they came to the conclusion that showed a great deal of wisdom. They had spent a lot of time and effort rationalizing the abortion of their child when it struck them that if they had to work so hard to justify the act, that the act was wrong at the core. They have a beautiful little girl today whose brother and sister would surely miss if she weren't there.
When you are looking for excuses to do something that you inherently know is wrong or bad - or if you are uncomfortable about it, that should tell you your moral compass is tilting in the wrong direction.
Now to the boudoir shoot. The scripture tells us to avoid the appearance of evil. So what is evil?, We know lust is evil, as is extramarital sexual relationships. Jesus said if you desire your neighbor's wife, it is the same as having her. A sin.
You say it doesn't bother you - you can handle it - you're not subject to lusting after these women. I know where you're coming from, i think that way too. But I'm lying to myself. Men are wired to look. Men - all men - have a weakness for lust. Some women - but not nearly as much as men.
If a woman is wearing little to no clothing, and acting alluring for the camera, its only a matter of time before the photographer begins to notice. You may not act on it - but it will affect you. You will treat your wife or girlfriend a little differently. You will never forget what you saw. Your memory will replay like a video tape the rest of your life. Anyone who will tell you it doesn't is either lying, dead or spiritually empty.
Then there is the whole side of it that you are contributing to the "industry". Call it porn, soft porn or playful sex for visual experience - and claim that it will only be shared between the wife and her husband - you have got to know the likelihood of being that discrete is next to impossible. You have no control over who will eventually see those images after you are gone. Worst case scenario, if there is a divorce, you can bet the opposing attorney is going to want to use it - or at least see it. If he uses it, the jury or judge will see it, once its a part of a trial, its public record and available to the public to see it.
You - as a "Christian" are responsible for the effects your work has on people. For that matter, any photographer or videographer is responsible for the effects their work product has on people. Hollywood says we will show you anything we want - you are responsible for your own actions. But Hollywood isn't out for your benefit - Hollywood is out for your dollar.
Final word - don't get caught up in the rationalizations that allow you to do that which you already know is wrong or dishonoring to the God who loves you and saved you from your sin. There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ and all things are lawful - but not all things are profitable.
Avoid that which is not spiritually profitable and ask yourself if you are really honoring God by what you allow yourself to do.
You're welcome to PM me if you wish - I hope you find resolution to your dilemma.
God bless you for asking.